Marriage~

*Marriage*

One of my besties is getting married next year. Perhaps she will be the first one who gets married among all my close friends. Really, I am happy for her as well as her beloved one. Because I think, it is not easy to find the right one, and at the right timing. Congratz! ^^

When I had a conversation with my parents and my grandma a few days ago, I kinda grab some ideas of how they perceive marriage, or even a serious relationship. Perhaps they have gone through the process themselves, so they are speaking of self-experiences.

They said that marriage is unfortunately not the matter of two persons. In other words, a successful marriage is not merely based on love. Living in a materialistic world, it is sad to say that we need money to get married. At least enough money to start a family and to support monthly expenses and other expenses. Also we have to think a few years ahead, when we welcome new members to the family. That will unavoidably increase monthly expenses. How about the change of the macro-environment? When your salary is fixed at a point while inflation is getting worst? I cannot deny that what they said is true. In fact they kinda scare me into getting married. Perhaps after all I am not ready for marriage yet.

Nonetheless, I still see marriage as a blessing, because this shows that we are lucky enough to meet the one in life. Someone who makes our lives complete. I am still positive thou,

*Marriage brings two souls together, two hearts to beat as one.*

p/s: Appreciate your loved ones. =)

昨日与今日的我~

人生短短几十年，何苦时时勉强自己，何苦事事强求一百分？

回想今天所发生的事，其实都是因为自己急于求胜，急于证明自己，最终反而弄巧反拙。发现有很多事情，无需过于心急，无需太过进取，应求顺其自然，慢慢培养。正如花草树木需要阳光，水分，养分与时间来慢慢成长，人与人之间的关系也正是如此。

现在只想倍加努力，多加思考，做好本分，接受批评，慢慢改善，慢慢进步，实现梦想。

I guess this is what life is all about~

Just imagine this,

One day your beloved ones was diagnosed with cancer, and she is using the anti-cancer drug that you're selling. But so happens that the drug does not work on her, and her health condition is deteriorating. And this morning you were awaken by a phone call from the hospital, asking you to rush to the hospital, maybe it will be your last visit. At the same time your phone reminder rang, reminding you to attend an important meeting to promote your drug. How will you feel? If you are faced with this kinda condition?

I got a friend who recently facing this kinda situation. Her mom was severely ill, using the drug that she is selling, but the effects are not so promising. She is trying to be strong, but how strong can we be, especially if the person is our loved ones. Sometimes people tend to advise us not to bring our emotions back to work, but we are human after all, how robotic we can be?

Somehow I think, this is what life is all about. Ironic it can be. Believe it or not, there are a lot of things that beyond our control, even we are trying our very best to do what we can. If today I am facing this kinda situation, I don't think I can be as strong as her, because I am a fragile woman who cannot stand the painstaking feeling of seeing my beloved dies in front of me.

Wish her all the best. Take good care of our loved ones when we still have the chance. Who knows what will happen tomorrow? When they said live life to the fullest, I guess this is one of the things that we should do before it is too late.

Babes, all the best and be strong. =)

The happy imperfection~

**It is impossible to make everyone around you happy
It is impossible to make everyone to like you
It is impossible to gain 100% for everything that you do**

I remember reading a book, the author said that there are two main kinda human in this world. The maxifier and the satisfier. Maxifier is the person who wanna be perfect in everything he does, to be recognized, to be valued by the society and his own standards. Satisfier is the person who does good enough to make himself happy.

Maxifier is not a happy person, because he has too many unsatisfied needs. Satisfier on the other hand, they may not be the most successful people on earth, not the richest, not the well-known people, but they happy people living a content life.

Somehow I have realized that, I am not a perfect human. In fact I am never a perfect human. So it is impossible to make everyone around me to like me, or like the way I do things. It is too tiring to twist and turn myself to be somebody else, to make the others happy while I am suffering myself. What is the point when I am not happy in the end of the day?

Another additional point to 2010 resolution, I wanna be ME, I wanna be a happier person.

P/S: 其实人生不复杂, 只是我把它复杂化。