*How do you define marriage?*An example that I have observed recently.
A couple was fighting over where to pay the car park ticket. They were at the counter but found that it was an auto-pay car park. The husband then parked the car at one side near to the counter but very far away from the auto-pay machine. The wife then suggested to reverse and drive the car near to the auto-pay machine so that he didn't have to walk so far. The wife's tone was slightly offensive.
Below was their conversation:
Husband: You tell me how we can reverse back?!
Wife: Just reverse la... Then park in front of the auto-pay station ma...
(The wife was using a lot of hand motions)
Husband: Cannot one la...
Wife: Why cannot? Just make a turn only ma...
Husband: You tell me how?!! Aiya~ Don't care la... I just park here...
(The husband was getting very angry and he left the car to pay the ticket)
Wife: Ok then up to you...
(The wife waved her hand before the husband slammed the door)
When the husband was finally back to the car and I thought they would continue arguing, their actions surprised me.
Wife: How much is the parking?
(In a non-offensive and caring way)
Husband: RM7
(He passed the ticket to his wife while he reversed the car)
Wife: Wow nowadays parking are so expensive.
Husband: Yalor... Next time maybe we can find somewhere else to park.
Wife: Yea...
(She handed some peeled langsat for her husband)
See... this should be the right way for a husband and wife to communicate with each other. Tolerance is the key. Sometimes when a person is too angry, they may have said something offensive and hurtful but seriously they didn't really mean it.
Just give each other some time to cool down and don't take their words personally, especially when they are mad. Most of the time they don't even know how the words could spill out from their mouth. It is just a reflective reaction when a person is very angry.
Marriage is a platform that allows loving couples to live together and to build a new life together. It takes a lot of courage, determination and commitment to do so. So don't give up easily and don't let your temporarily anger blinds your eyes and ruins your marriage. =D
A couple was fighting over where to pay the car park ticket. They were at the counter but found that it was an auto-pay car park. The husband then parked the car at one side near to the counter but very far away from the auto-pay machine. The wife then suggested to reverse and drive the car near to the auto-pay machine so that he didn't have to walk so far. The wife's tone was slightly offensive.
Below was their conversation:
Husband: You tell me how we can reverse back?!
Wife: Just reverse la... Then park in front of the auto-pay station ma...
(The wife was using a lot of hand motions)
Husband: Cannot one la...
Wife: Why cannot? Just make a turn only ma...
Husband: You tell me how?!! Aiya~ Don't care la... I just park here...
(The husband was getting very angry and he left the car to pay the ticket)
Wife: Ok then up to you...
(The wife waved her hand before the husband slammed the door)
When the husband was finally back to the car and I thought they would continue arguing, their actions surprised me.
Wife: How much is the parking?
(In a non-offensive and caring way)
Husband: RM7
(He passed the ticket to his wife while he reversed the car)
Wife: Wow nowadays parking are so expensive.
Husband: Yalor... Next time maybe we can find somewhere else to park.
Wife: Yea...
(She handed some peeled langsat for her husband)
See... this should be the right way for a husband and wife to communicate with each other. Tolerance is the key. Sometimes when a person is too angry, they may have said something offensive and hurtful but seriously they didn't really mean it.
Just give each other some time to cool down and don't take their words personally, especially when they are mad. Most of the time they don't even know how the words could spill out from their mouth. It is just a reflective reaction when a person is very angry.
Marriage is a platform that allows loving couples to live together and to build a new life together. It takes a lot of courage, determination and commitment to do so. So don't give up easily and don't let your temporarily anger blinds your eyes and ruins your marriage. =D
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